Beautiful Colors for Nails

I found this beautiful nail polish color from ulta cosemetics, its mango. This color goes so nice with anything. I have been wearing it for the spring but I will definitely bring this out for the summer time. I just love the way it goes with my skin, and it accentuates my style. The price is cheap also, ulta has a sale you buy two for $7.50 and get one free.

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going natural the new trend

It seems to me that a new trend in the black women community is "going natural". Everyone is going natural, old and young women. I feel like its a revive of Foxy Cleopatra! But I am not against this movement, I am actually excited and participating. I have gotten perms for a good strong 4 years, and I am tired of the hair thinning and breakage. I am working my way backwards to going natural, I am not bold enough to cut off, so my plan for now is to let it grow out. I want to feel comfortable in my own hair and not let my image of beauty be construed by the constant social pull that tries to make black women look like white women.

My advice to women with thick hair that tangles quick is to use a straightening comb rather than a flat iron. I works faster to manage the hair, and keep it from breaking. I am currently using an electric comb , which is helpful for traveling purposes. Also I have notice that my hair responds better to oil rather than grease. I plan on keeping a log, with pictures to help me observe the changes of my hair and to measure the natural hair.

I believe going natural is a good move, and is also a symbol of the black women saying "no" to society always choosing for her in terms of her beauty and status. I encourage other black women to join us and support those that are already going natural to continue.

Underestimated by size

As a skinny girl I have had to deal with big girls trying to intimidate and walk all over me. I am not frightened by size or weight, and I have no problem confronting individuals who disrespect or offend me. I always have to defend or prove my emotional and physical strength so these big girls can cool it. I wondered why do people try to use the size to control others. These are several obvious reasons for this, but the one that is most often overlooked is hidden insecurities these individuals suffer. I have notice patterns in this type of behavior of big vs. little, big people during confrontation use all these extra communication "accessories" like they have to jump in your face, use the screaming voice level, overall high volume and try to be condescending. Why is all this necessary? There is no need for people to be acting crazy like this, yelling and screaming recklessly in your face, unless their dealing with some emotional problems. I feel these people get energy and confidence off of making others feel scared and insufficient.But what type of stable confidence can derive from an insecurity. None. Moreover when they meet an individual like me who refuses to let them use their weight to shut me down and control my actions, they squander like rodents. They feel defeated, powerless and uncomfortable by those who are not scared. I am just sick and tired of this nonsense that because your big you can beat up someone, it has clearly been proven that weight is not a determining factor in who will win a fight. I urge skinny and any other oppressed groups to continue to stand up for themselves because if you don't, you will be definitely taken advantage of.

Just because I don't show a lot of emotion does not mean I am not still a woman

It disturbs that some men still can't respect a strong women undefined by societal images. The guys that I am referring to are those that are demanding us women to express our emotions and feelings, or constantly showing men we care about them. A guy I was "talking" to told me I was like a dude because I had no emotion. Why do some men expect all women to go love crazy on them. I don't have time to constantly tell a guy how I feel . If you need to be reinforced so often then we don't need to be together. If we addressed the situation already then all we need to do is maintain our love by actions.

I appreciate the signs of love, such as good communication, or simple acts like writing poetry for someone, giving flowers, or just noticing small things about someone. They speak volumes and more than the words "I care about you" or I love you". Showing your love helps your partner know and define how you really feel about them. Words alone don't mean much. Going back to strong women I have realized these guys love weak women they can control. These guys build up confidence from preying on women that they know will go crazy for them. Honestly in my opinion these men are suffering from insecurities and are intimidated by a woman who they can't predict or control. I demand the dual participation; if you want me to show you affection and love then you must do the same at the same degree. I can't take the half ass type of relationships that these men give. Does anybody else share similar thoughts?